You can thrive in your career without neglecting your personal life. For me, this very much comes down to having boundaries and knowing when to switch off but let’s dive deeper into this.
As we go through life we are taught overtime to become serious about life, have a career, settle down, get married and the list goes on… Sometimes (not all) we can get preoccupied and forget to enjoy life. Especially when the focus is on building a career (or business). I’ve been there in both scenarios and the struggle can be real and can snatch away the real joys of life.
There is a common phrase that gets thrown around in life and it’s to “love what you do, because when you love what you do you never have to work a day in your life”. I call cap on that, work is work but if you’re not loving what you’re doing, maybe it’s time for a change. You don’t need to lose yourself in your career, you can find yourself too.
Keep it real with yourself for a moment. How many things in your life are truly beyond your control? There are often choices and that means you could be one step away from living your best life (personally and professionally).
If you don’t want to work for more than 40 hours per week so you can dedicate time to the things you’re passionate about.. yet you find yourself consistently working way more than 40 hours per week you will inevitably become dissatisfied.
Thrive in your career by analysing where your career choices may be conflicting with your personal choices. If you are feeling conflicted, it’s time for something to change. Examine your schedule and rearrange things as and where possible to ensure you have time for the things that make you happy. This is about honoring your needs, regardless of what they may be.
When you say yes to others, make sure you’re not saying NO to yourself. Paulo Coelho
As harsh as it sounds, saying no to people you love at times is essential. You might believe that only so-called selfish people do that but actually, saying no not only protects your energy it’s also liberating. This brings it back to ensuring you are a priority. You have to put your oxygen mask on first before you are able to help others.
Boundaries are a beautiful thing
Have boundaries. You may not realise it but you set expectations for how others interact with you through your actions. if someone knows you will respond anytime and on the weekend as an example, that’s what they become accustomed to. Therefore, when you don’t it can cause issues. Be mindful of the standards you are setting and keep in mind that not everything requires an immediate response.
Thrive in your career, don’t survive. Being committed and focused is a beautiful thing but if you’re sacrificing most of your “now” for later, be sure you’re doing it for the right reasons and it’s something you’re comfortable with.
Ultimately, there comes a time when you have to decide what is more important to you, and if you are prepared to neglect the things in your personal life that matter to you. Never forget that you have a choice because you are always in the driving seat (or passage seat depending on your beliefs).
The career we opt for might pay thousands a month, but we shouldn’t forget what we want in the quest of what we need.