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The Revolution of Kind Words

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The Revolution of Kind Words

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Are you speaking kind words into your life, and the lives of others?


I’m an American girl, so perhaps your country or culture calls dry cleaning something a smidge different. However, the point remains that I had always allowed dry cleaning to be so casual, so flippant, that I never thought about the reason behind this verb. It was simply a thing I said but not an action someone else performed. I had unintentionally taken the word for granted, dismissing its origin.

Words are never without a purpose, without a root, a story that tells the birth of particular consonants and vowels coming together to create a sound that identifies a piece of reality. Words, the thoughts we choose to birth through our lips, offer one of two things: death or life.

Whether our world lives by devastation or joy, cruelty or kindness, is up to us.

And in a culture so disillusioned by the words carelessly tossed around behind the shield of social media handles, it’s time we think through the reality our words catalyse:


Rarely, at least in my Southeastern American culture, do we say someone “died.” They either “passed away” or they are “no longer with us.” We like to tiptoe around the word “die,” the idea of “death.”

So why do we kill each other? Are we so consumed with what we think, that we murder the reputation of someone on the opposing side? Do we use our fingers as firearms to destroy someone’s worth with harsh notions plastered all over social media? Is there a chance we will stab each other in the back with gossip that does nothing more than sear souls?

We don’t like the word “death,” but we are amped by the idea of the opponent’s humanity dying.

We too easily slay one another with out-of-control anger, embarrassment, or frustration, and though humans will never be perfect, we can most definitely do better by stepping away from an emotionally unhealthy situation, taking a moment to breathe and get fresh air, and have a healthy dialogue (speaking and listening) once the mind, body, and spirit are levelled.

Words have power, but such power hangs in the balance of wrong and right, and it’s up to us to decide which one.


“You are my favourite author!”

“You look like Audrey Hepburn.”

“You are so much stronger than I was at your age.”

These are just a few of the most supportive, glamorous and kind words people have strung together and shared with me over the course of my life. I remember them so vividly because they continue to nurture my heart.

On days when I don’t feel that my writing is up to par, I remember my dear church friend who took the time to share that I am her favourite author and she can’t wait for my next book.

When stress acne covers my face and a few grey hairs attempt a debut, I recall that my sorority sister’s grandmother told me I looked just like Audrey Hepburn when I was the maid of honour at a wedding, sporting bouffant hair, red lipstick, and pearls.

When I feel weak, as if I’m not brave enough, I reminisce on the countless times my mother told me–and continues to say–I was so much braver and stronger than her when she was a young woman.

Perhaps you have a few memories like these, moments when someone made you feel that you had the right to take up space, you had something worthwhile to bring to the table, or you were so unique that no one could compare to your talents, skills, wisdom, or beauty.

Words are timeless, no doubt, and if it takes as little energy as borrowing a few free breaths of oxygen, could we not offer such timeless, encouraging, kind words to others?

What if you compliment the woman in front of you in the grocery line, acknowledging how pretty her hair or skin is?

What if you gave praise to your hard-working co-worker in front of the big boss?

What if you made a poster, wrote a letter, or sang a song to someone who deserves to know you are cheering them on?

What if kind words weren’t a rarity, and, instead, they were the common trait of conversation?
I daresay social media would be a little less harsh, tough days would be a bit more bearable, and life would shine countless rays of hope with the big, beaming promise that one day, LOVE will heal all things.

Will you choose to speak life–genuine, kind words–today? Share with a comment and don’t forget to react to this post with an emoji!

 Peyton Garland

Peyton Garland

Guest Writing Coach

Peyton Garland is a writer, wanna-be rapper, and coffee shop hopper who loves connecting people to a grace much bigger than expected. Her debut book, Not So by Myself, was promoted by Former White House Press Secretary Dana Perino and endorsed by TED Talk speaker and creator of the More Love Letters movement, Hannah Brencher. You can connect with Peyton via social media or her website.

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