..When it comes to your sex life, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut. You know what works for you and your partner, so you stick to it. But after a while, even the best sex can start to feel routine. If you’re looking for ways to spice up your sex life, here are eight suggestions that are sure to please.
Get kinky with role-playing
If you’ve never tried role-playing in the bedroom, now is the time! Fantasising about being with someone else can make sex even more exciting… And role-playing doesn’t have to be complicated. You can start with something as simple as pretending to be strangers who just met at a bar and you decide to take things back to your place (or a hotel room). Don’t be afraid to laugh or be silly. Sex is about connecting and having flipping fun so use role-play to bring some lightheartedness to it all. If it doesn’t go according to plan, laugh it off and try again. If it works, great. Remember this is just an example to use/adapt as a super hot way to spice up your sex life.
Incorporate some light bondage into your sex life (if that’s your jam)
Bondage doesn’t have to be elaborate or involve any expensive gear. Handcuffs, ties, and scarves can be used to restrain your partner in a way that heightens both of your senses and anticipated pleasure. Just be sure to establish a safe word before things get too hot and heavy (it can be absolutely anything – blueberries anyone?).
It could also be as simple as wearing something kinky. I’m a big fan of sexy lingerie and love getting dressed up. Maybe throw in some PVC, massage oil and sex accessories – whatever makes you feel fierce! The aim here is to shift your energy and get you feeling like the queen that you are.
Make a game out of it
A little friendly competition can go a long way in the bedroom. This could be anything from giving each other goals to engaging in playful banter or awarding points for every sexual act performed. This is all about adding an extra layer of spice and fun to something you’re already loving.
How about these ideas to get you started:
Turn foreplay into a game by seeing who can give the other person the most pleasure in a certain amount of time. The winner gets to pick the next game, so everyone wins!
Create a sex bucket list and see who can check off the most items.
Keep score! See how many days in a row you can have sex.
Take turns planning surprise sex sessions for each other, complete with props and costumes.
Talk dirty to each other
This one is for all the ladies out there who feel shy about talking dirty during sex. Trust me, your partner will love it if you let loose and say what’s on your mind in bed. If you need some help getting started, there are plenty of resources available online (just be sure he’s not within earshot while you’re doing your research) to help you incorporate into your sex life.
Get messy with food play
This one is definitely not for everyone, but if you’re willing to get messy, food play can make your sex life a lot of fun (and very sexy). honey, chocolate sauce, whipped cream, and fruit all make for great sexual toppings/dressings/toppings (wink wink). And who doesn’t love sticky fingers?
Sometimes the best way to spice up your sex life is simply by being spontaneous! This means having sex when and where it’s least expected… maybe in the shower, in front of the fireplace, or even in public (if you’re feeling adventurous)! The element of surprise is sure to add some excitement to your sex life.
Get playful with toys
If you’re looking for something to really mix things up, why not try using sex toys? They can be a great way to add some extra excitement to your sex life. There are all sorts of different toys available, so there’s sure to be something that appeals to you and your partner.
Talk about your fantasies
Discussing your sexual fantasies with your partner is a great way to jump start your sex life. Not only will it give you both something new to try, but it will also help to build intimacy. Who knows, you may even discover that you have some of the same fantasies! If there are things you want to try, be open and share. You don’t know how they will react – if it’s something that makes them feel nervous, see if there’s a compromise or just start super small and simple. Talking openly about the things you want sexually could also lead to a more honest relationship overall, where you’re able to talk about pretty much everything.
Incorporating new ideas into your sex life is a great way to keep things fresh and exciting for both you and your partner. So ditch the same old routine and try something new tonight! Your partner will thank you for it (and so will your libido).
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