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I Asked Men
3 Questions About Women, Here’s What They Said

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I Asked Men
3 Questions About Women, Here’s What They Said

Love & Relationships0 comments

I love the male friends I have and I appreciate the men I interact with as they help me to look at love and relationships from a different perspective.

This includes really listening and learning from them. Taking on board what they have to say based on their experiences and using their advice to improve my relationships. I asked men the following 3 questions and in this post I share exactly what they said in their own words. 
You will see I had to make it clear the turn-offs and turn-ons weren’t about sex because if that’s not stipulated, that’s where their minds wander to! No offence guys, but you know it’s the truth.😝
1. How do you prefer for women to communicate with you? For example, do you like women who are upfront about how they feel and what they want?

Upfront, no womanese (communicating in a way men find hard to understand).

Yes, I like it when a woman is upfront about her feelings, though as you would have noticed I’m trying to also be honest about mine in that moment. Previously just the thought of a woman being direct about her liking me was a turn on without me checking if I was in turn attracted to her.

Yes upfront for sure. I’m trying to be radically honest with people and it’s not always easy but I respect people who are candid and I appreciate people who respect me enough to be forthcoming with their emotions. Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.

Upfront and direct is always the best way but there has to be class to it. There’s a difference between honest and rude.

2. What are the top 3 things women do that turn you off? This isn’t about sex.

Bad attitude – e.g. not classy, gangsta, not feminine.

Low interest – if she’s not interested, neither am I.

I don’t like pretend helplessness. Competence is sexy.

Passive aggressiveness – if you’re pissed off at me, tell me. It’s actually really unfair to be like yes I am annoyed.

Manipulation in any form, just come right out and say what you want. Let’s communicate.

Constant negativity.

Lack of maintenance- weight and hygiene.

I don’t like it when people have double standards. Sometimes it’s impossible not to be a hypocrite sometimes. It’s got to be a different rule for you occasionally but at least be self-aware about it. I hate it when some people demand things from others that they are just not prepared to deliver on for themselves.

Not knowing what you want, sexually or otherwise.

Any of “but …. said/thinks this.”

A sense of entitlement.

Not being ladylike.

3. What are the top 3 things women do that turn you on? Again, this isn’t about sex.


Can cook a great meal.

Self knowledge that is not self obsessed is sexy.

Boss lady’s – independent women, real ones not those that use men to get what they want.

A great sense of style.


A life before and outside of me.

Competence is sexy.

Perceptiveness is sexy.

Givers, women that give as much as they take, willing to share the brunt of responsibility.

Submissive to a certain extent.

Lady in the streets …..

One additional comment was “I think women are worse than men at being direct communicators.”

You know, I have to admit that there have been times when I haven’t been the best communicator but 9/10 times I’m going to tell you how I feel, regardless of who the person is. How about you? Are you upfront and direct enough? 

I hope this post was beneficial to you! What’s the one thing you will take away from it? Share with a comment and don’t forget to react to this post with an emoji!


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