Negative energy… Let’s be honest, there are some people, places and things that can take there toll on us. The kind that makes you feel exhausted afterwards because it drains you of the energy you have within that keeps you going each day.
This isn’t going to be the usual kind of post you may have read on this topic which can include things like stop watching the news, say affirmations, declutter your space and so on.
Now I’m not suggesting that stuff doesn’t work, but negative energy can also stem from how we treat ourselves…. the actions we choose to take, how we feel and react to situations and challenges we may face. That’s where we are going to place our focus so let’s get personal.
There are times when I can become super defensive if I’m faced with questions I don’t want to answer or if there are topics I don’t want to delve into. In my head, I’m like “why the fuck is this person questioning me and trying to get into my business?!”
I’m learning from going through therapy that it doesn’t help me to be defensive as it creates this unnecessary annoyance (sometimes anger) that impacts the light within.
So I take a step back to invest time to understand why those feelings exist, so I can effectively address what is going on in order to move past it in a mindful way.
I share that, to demonstrate the key to overcome negative energy is to actually deal with it and break that shit down! If you’re open and willing to do so, let’s begin with a process I personally use which was inspired by a therapy session I had.
What’s bothering you?
Take a few moments to think about what is not contributing to your life and/or the direction you are heading in. The negative energy seeping into your life. I’m not going to give you generic examples as whatever it is, will be completely unique to you.
Why does it bother you?
Pinpoint what the issue is, and the impact it’s having on you. This will support you to have a conversation with the relevant person/people (if needed) and/or help you to release yourself from it.
How does it make you feel?
Is it angry, anxious, fearful, sad or something else? When you can hone in on the feeling, you can explain it better, and learn to step out of it.
Why does that feeling rise up within you?
Now you might think… “I’ve already answered that”, however, this is a different step. For example, it could rise up when someone mentions something specific, you have to go somewhere or do something. Pinpoint the moment.
How would you describe the impact of the feeling?
When you are in that moment, the feeling you don’t want to experience, dig deep and describe it. For example, does it stop you in your track and make you not want to continue with something or does it put you in a bad mood for the rest of the morning, afternoon, day or night. Be open and honest with yourself.
How can you overcome what’s bothering you?
This links with the guidance for the second question. If it relates to a person, sit down and speak with them face to face (if possible) to let them know:
- What’s bothering you
- Why it bothers you
- How it makes you feel
- Why it makes you feel that way
- The impact it’s having on you
If it’s something else here are some action steps for you:
- Give some serious thought and consideration to if it’s something you need to keep on doing
- If it’s not something you need to keep on doing STOP! If it is, flip the script and CHANGE IT
- Get someone else to do it if possible
When it comes to energy, you are in the driving seat which means you have the power to speak up and make adjustments. What you allow yourself to feel, is how you will continue to feel until you use your power, and take control.
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