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Are You Feeling Life?

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Are You Feeling Life?

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Are you feeling life? That may sound like a strange question to ask and you may be wondering what I’m going on about! Well settle in, because I’m going to share exactly what I mean with you.

Recently I’ve come to realise more so than ever that there is a difference between living life and feeling life. The sad reality is that there are some people who are not allowing themselves to truly feel life… I was in that place. Living life and going through the motions but not really allowing myself to feel every moment and be open to exploring the feelings  that enable me to heighten the experiences of everyday life.

When you begin the journey of feeling life, you find yourself embracing and experiencing new things. By way of an example, this can be by verbally communicating the things that you want to your partner in sharing your desires, fantasies, dreams and hopes. But that’s only one part of it because to feel what you want requires the confidence to release your inner ambition and act on those things which may include doing so within safe spaces.

Now, you might be thinking that sounds wonderful but you just don’t know how to and that’s okay, because I’m going to share things you may want to consider based on my personal experience.

Love yourself

What’s love got to do with it? Absolutely everything! This is about loving the parts of you that not everyone sees because you keep those parts hidden. I have an alter ego that I have grown to embrace and love, and that only came about in my 40s! I’m more expressive sexually than I ever was before. I have kinks and I’m not ashamed or afraid to share them with the man in my life and my friends when we converse on a variety of topics. Now of course, for you this may look very different, but I share this to demonstrate the power of letting yourself go which leads me nicely onto the next point.

What other people think is none of your business

It’s hard to get to this place but here I am sharing stuff about myself that has the ability to be read, listened to and seen by the people in all areas of my life and you know what? I’m okay with that, because what they choose to think or the conclusions they decide to come to is none of my business. You see, many people will talk and pass judgement but sometimes it’s because they wish they could be as free. I have friends who tell me they are living their lives through me and whilst we have a laugh about it, I don’t want that to be the case. I want them to live life on their own terms –  I want them to feel life. Get the point I’m making here? Basically, do you!

Let go

I have always hated snakes but I never really knew why, apart from the fact they freak me the heck out. Recently I had the opportunity to be part of a performance at an event that meant I had to have a snake on my body, hugging me. My first question was, “okay, what is it going to feel like?” The performer said, “It’s like a stiff dick.” 

I thought, ‘fuck it, I can get down with that’ and just went for it! I had this huge snake wrapped around me and it was one of the most amazing experiences because I allowed myself to feel. I allowed myself to let go… Queen, to feel you need to release and let go.

Fuck it moments

Today isn’t going to make a comeback. Once the day is over that’s it. Any opportunity to feel by doing something you wanted to on this day is gone unless you decide to have fuck it moments. Everyday I have a moment where I say fuck it. It doesn’t have to be something big. It could be something as small as saying, “I’m not up to it but fuck it, let me go to the gym because I know I’m going to… FEEL better for it.” You see that? Introducing fuck it moments into your everyday life will allow you to feel something you maybe never knew you could.

The bottom line is this. When you allow yourself to feel life, you open yourself up to a new reality, a new way of thinking, behaving, and feeling… Are you allowing yourself to feel life? If not, ask yourself why and find that safe space where you have the freedom to do so.

What are you going to do in order to allow yourself to feel life? Share with a comment and don’t forget to react to this post with an emoji!

Photo by Rafael Sanfilippo on Unsplash

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