You know that moment when you’re like “you know what? Fuck this!” Take a step back and breathe…
I’ve had many of those moments. Sometimes those moments were fleeting, and there were other times when it meant it was time for a change. Time to take a new direction and follow my passion and do what I was called to do.
The reasons behind those moments vary for all of us because what we experience and go through is different from one person to the next. However, there are certain things we can do and that’s what I want to share with you (just so you know I’ve actually done them myself too).
Test out the ones that resonate with you the most to help you with taking that step back, breathing and thinking things through.
1. Identify why you feel like quitting
- Did something happen to trigger it?
- Is it due to feeling tired?
- Does it relate to a lack of tangible results within a certain area?
Now, Queens, I’m going to keep it real, is it because your period is due? I remember I watched a video once on YouTube and there was a lady talking about not doing certain things in the run-up to our period. I thought to myself, this is crap advice.
It wasn’t crap at all, I just couldn’t relate at the time. However, the older I get the more it impacts me. I get super emotional, annoyed, frustrated and feel like crying at the drop of a hat (so to speak) and feel like F this.
This isn’t going to apply to all women, but it’s something to take into consideration.
Ok, so once you’ve identified why you feel like quitting, you can actually do something about it and that doesn’t mean you have to do something right away.
2. Have faith (yes faith!)
Pray about it, meditate on it and allow yourself to just breathe and be.
3. Take time out
One of my favourite things to do is to sit on my sofa with my feet up, my duvet, a mighty malt, Ben & Jerry’s ice cream (big fan of cookie and dough) and just relax with ma (yes ma) Netflix.
What’s your favourite thing to do? Take time out and just relax, allow yourself to have that downtime before making any rash decisions.
4. Stay true to how you’re feeling
OK, so I agree with a man called GaryVee who once shared a message on social media which was positivity always wins, always! I agree with this statement 100%, but we cannot and will not be positive all the time.
Staying true to how you are feeling is about not brushing what’s going on under the carpet. It’s about acknowledging it, addressing it and moving on from it when you are ready.
There is nothing wrong with sitting or lying in your feelings, just don’t stay there!
5. Go back to your why
We all start something and accept opportunities that are presented to us for a reason right? Now if you’re nodding yes to this or thinking it in your mind I have a question for you.
Are you prepared at this stage to really quit and give up on what could be? This isn’t a trick question, the answer could be no or yes and it’s an answer that you and only you have to feel.
Now I want to share two personal examples with you. When I started to work for myself, my first business idea was a company called Colour Your Success which helped young people to develop their mindset and skills within a professional environment.
In 2013 I decided it was time to quit and let go because I realised that it wasn’t what I was really called to do and wasn’t going to give me the lifestyle I desired.
Example two relates to the time I decided to go in a new direction in my business and introduce meditation and other things that I knew had the ability to support the success of others from personal experience, but I knew I was going to lose people from my audience.
Regardless of any losses I was excited to see what was on the other side of what I had not planned for. The reason why I share this is because it’s OK to change course, it’s OK to do things that not everyone is going to like and it’s OK to do you and not give a damn what other people have to say.
6. Speak with someone
Who is that one person you trust within your circle who will just listen and pitch in and ask the right questions when needed? For me, it’s speaking with those who are close to me as it helps me to look at things from a different perspective. Talking things out can also help us to realise that things are not as bad as we may have originally thought and it can help us to come to a conclusion that we have been running away from.
7. Understand that nothing will be perfect
Absolutely nothing is perfect. I no longer say “I want it to be perfect” as I now say “I’m anal” which I am and is one of the things I love about myself.
Start where you are and with the resources you have. When I started a membership platform for black female entrepreneurs and was sending emails and speaking with people, I had nothing to show them. No website nothing.
All I had was words, passion and a vision for what I wanted to create at the time. What I’m getting at here is you are one of your best resources. Use the gifts you’ve been blessed with and your mind to figure things out and find solutions to make what you want great.
8. Look at the expectations you’re placing on yourself
I use to set really big targets to achieve, but I would end up over-stretching myself and when things weren’t achieved, it would make me feel crap! Now my approach is different. I still challenge myself, but I do things in a way that feels good to me.
Challenge yourself, but also evaluate your personal targets and the expectations you are placing on yourself. Just to be clear, this isn’t about lowering your standards, it’s simply about being real with yourself.
9. Evaluate if you can afford to
If you dislike your job are you really in a position financially where you can walk away from it? Do you have a financial buffer? This is just one example, but it’s important. If you don’t like your job seek out alternative opportunities or look at ways you can like your job even if it’s something you know you don’t want to do in the long term.
When working for someone else, that is where we spend most of our time. It has to bring us peace in some way shape or form.
10. Think and feel yourself to your decision
This really encompasses most of the points I’ve gone through. If your heart is no longer in something and you just don’t want to do it anymore, you can choose to stop and let go or keep going and pushing through to that place you visioned when you started.
No one, but you can make the decision. Ultimately, the direction, the road you choose to go down is down to you.
When you feel like quitting, step back take a deep breath and give one of the ten things listed above a go.
When you feel like quitting, step back and take a deep breath. What’s the one thing listed above that you’re going to try out? Share with a comment and don’t forget to react to this post with an emoji!